Listen to the Call:
820 BROAD ST.
DURHAM, NC 27705-4138
TAPE – 209
(dialing sound) (ringing 1X)
CLINIC: Planned Parenthood Durham.
CALLER: I was wondering if you guys do abortions there.
CLINIC: We do in our Chapel Hill office.
CALLER: Okay. Do you have the number for that?
CLINIC: I can actually explain everything to you and make your appointment if you’d like.
CLINIC: We’re affiliated.
CALLER: Okay. Well, like my friend told me that you guys have to tell my parents before I can have an abortion. Is that true?
CLINIC: We have to have parental consent.
(hinting) So you can have a letter from a guardian with their signature and a phone number that we call.
CALLER: Well, is there any way not to do that? Because they like hate my boyfriend because — like he’s 22, and they think he’s too old for me, so I don’t, I can’t tell them at all.
CLINIC: Okay. We can, I can give you the number for the judicial bypass.
CALLER: Uh-huh. What is that?
CLINIC: You can call them, and you can kind of get some information from them. Are you in Durham or Orange County?
CALLER: I’m actually in Creedmoor. I don’t know what the county is, but.
CLINIC: I don’t know what the county is either. Hold on.
CLINIC: (pause) Okay, so I’m going to call a number really quick and see if I can find out. Hold on.
CLINIC: (pause) I found out it’s in Granville County, and so this is the clerk of court number. Maybe they could help you out and tell you kind of what to do. If not, give us a call back and we’ll try to work with you in terms of how we can figure something out.
CALLER: Okay. Well, do you know if like the judge ever says no or anything?
CLINIC: I have no idea.
CLINIC: So it’s 693-2649.
CALLER: Do you guys — like will they have to tell anybody about my boyfriend or anything?
CLINIC: I have no — I don’t even know. How old are you?
CALLER: I’ll be 14 in March.
CALLER: And he’s 22.
CLINIC: Okay. Do you know when your, the first day of your last menstrual period was?
CALLER: It was like the second week in December, probably like the 15th or so.
CLINIC: 15th. Hold on. Okay. So what I would suggest is, I’d — you know what?
CLINIC: Let me — is there a phone number where I can give you a call back?
CALLER: No. I’m at my friend’s house and her mom’s here, so if — she would answer the phone.
CLINIC: Okay. So here’s what I’ll do. I’ll give the Granville Clerk of Court a call and see, you know, what the procedure would be and, you know, ask about the age difference between you and your boyfriend and, you know, how that works out.
CLINIC: And then if you want to give me a call back today —
CALLER: Well, would they have to say anything, or why do you have to tell them? Like what would happen?
CLINIC: I’m just trying to find out for you, see.
CALLER: Oh, okay.
CLINIC: So like, you know, you don’t have to call and ask, unless you want and ask yourself.
CLINIC: Okay. So I could call them, and you could give me a call back. I’m not sure how long it would take, but if you just — you know, we’re here until 5:00 today. My name is Agnes, so you can give me a call back, and then I can let you know what they say.
CLINIC: And maybe we could try to figure things out from there.
CALLER: Okay. Well, like say that I wasn’t pregnant. Do you guys do birth control there?
CLINIC: Yeah. Um-hum.
CALLER: And you wouldn’t have to tell anybody that I’m on birth control or anything?
CLINIC: Oh, no, not at all. We are not allowed to tell anybody anything about you when you come here except for you without your authorization.
CALLER: Okay. And you’re not going to tell anybody about my boyfriend or anything?
CLINIC: No. Um-um.
CALLER: All right.
CALLER: Okay. So I’ll call you back.
CLINIC: All right. Bye bye.
(dial sound) (ringing 1X)
CLINIC: Planned Parenthood Durham.
CALLER: Hi. Yeah. I was wanting to talk to Agnes.
CLINIC: Okay. Hang on a second.
CLINIC: This is Agnes. How can I help you?
CALLER: Yeah. I was the one that called earlier wondering about the judicial bypass.
CLINIC: Sure. Okay. So this is what I found out. In terms of your boyfriend and you scheduling an appointment here, we don’t do anything about that.
CLINIC: You know, just don’t bring it to our attention. You know, don’t highlight it or anything like that.
CLINIC: We don’t ask. Like a no ask, no tell kind of thing. In terms of the Clerk of Court, I called them and found out that what you’d have to do is, you’d have to meet with the Clerk of Court and fill out some paperwork.
CLINIC: And so I can give you the number to call and set up an appointment. Or I can call for you and set up an appointment. They said that they could do it like today, Tuesday or Wednesday like around 3:00 or 4:00. Would that work for you?
CALLER: Well, I’d have to call my boyfriend and see when he can take me, but would they agree to it, you think?
CLINIC: I don’t know. That’s what you’re going to have to — you know, you fill out some paperwork and you talk to them.
CLINIC: So — but you just have to set up an appointment to go in and get paperwork because, you know, everything is so confidential that, you know, you’d like go into the office and they would take you into a different office so no one would overhear anything and stuff like that. They keep it really private.
CLINIC: And then you just fill out some paperwork and talk to one of two people, and then you could find out what to do after that.
CLINIC: So do you want me to give you the number so you can call and set up an appointment?
CLINIC: Okay. So it’s —
CALLER: Well, like do you know if it’s all right if my boyfriend takes me or —
CLINIC: I mean, I think that’s fine. I think, you know, that might be something that you want to ask.
CALLER: Like when I call for the appointment?
CLINIC: No, no, no. For when you call for the appointment, all you have to do is say, I’m calling to make an appointment for a judicial bypass.
CLINIC: That’s ALL you need to say.
CALLER: But it’s okay if my boyfriend takes me, because I don’t know how else I would get there.
CLINIC: Yeah. Yeah. And here’s the thing what I would do like about your boyfriend. I just, I wouldn’t bring it up.
CLINIC: Like don’t bring it up unless you really need to.
CLINIC: Okay? If they ask, then you know you might have to bring it up, but I wouldn’t go in there and say, hey listen, I’m 13 and my boyfriend’s 22.
CLINIC: Okay? So I would just do what kind of — you know, do what you need to do. Ask questions if you’re confused. You can call me back if you want and you can tell me kind of like what happened and
CLINIC: — stuff like that. I wouldn’t bring it up unless you’re specifically asked to.
CLINIC: Okay? So yeah, when you call for the appointment all you need to do is just call and say, I’m calling to set up an appointment for a judicial bypass. And the two ladies that usually do it are Mrs. Oberton (sp) or Mrs. Allen (sp).
CLINIC: Okay? And the phone number is 693-2649.
CLINIC: And then, you know, if they give it you then you should just call us back, and then I can go ahead and set up an appointment for you.
CALLER: And your name was Agnes?
CALLER: All right. Okay. Thanks.
CLINIC: You’re welcome.
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